tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941477508092999916.post6814683452579175141..comments2023-06-16T02:18:20.448-07:00Comments on Contraception and Christianity: Hardcore NFP view "seems like a real contradiction"Contraskeptichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09168705596530281419noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941477508092999916.post-76461385084545593722013-02-23T07:36:51.586-08:002013-02-23T07:36:51.586-08:00hi, i found your blog through an archive of a femi...hi, i found your blog through an archive of a feminist blog. i don't know if you check it anymore, but as i never see this mentioned in the us-american contraception debate, i'd like to point out to you that there are contraception techniques that do not, in my eyes, violate the evangelical view of "lawful" sex.<br /> <br />the female cycle works the following way: it starts with the first day of the period. during every cycle the ovaries send out one cell (sometimes more) to the uterus, where it can encounter a sperm cell to conceive a baby. usually, this happens after 14 (12-18) days after the cycle starts. this cell remains alive for 1-3 days. after it dies, all the remaining days until the period the woman is in fact infertile, so it is absolutely safe to sleep together in that time. because every woman is different, the ovulation process can differ by a few days.<br /><br /> temperature measurement (every morning before getting up) makes it possible to track the cycle process, because shortly before ovulation, the temperature rises a little bit. also, during ovulation, the vaginal secretion is thicker and stickier to allow the sperm cell better access to the uterus. all of these indications can be very secure signs about the risk of pregnancy, if observed regularly. this way, you can sleep together whenever it seems safe, and you do not need to employ any other way of conception which might seem sinful in your eyes. best ask a pharmacist about the details which would take too much space to write in here. all the best from switzerland. eAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941477508092999916.post-34814179124991772732009-06-04T11:30:40.642-07:002009-06-04T11:30:40.642-07:00Whoooops, I thought this entry was June 4, 2009. ...Whoooops, I thought this entry was June 4, 2009. I thought you just woke up this blog one day and on the very day I arrive. Looks like I am a whole year late. You probably don't check this blog anymore, but if you do I wish you well and hope you sex life and marriage approved over the last year.Petenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941477508092999916.post-22181431828164610502009-06-04T11:16:26.563-07:002009-06-04T11:16:26.563-07:00I have no idea why NFP would be seen as more "...I have no idea why NFP would be seen as more "open" to life then the barrier method. In both cases you are trying to prevent pregnancy. In both cases there is a chance for pregnancy, as if giving God "the option" is really what matters. (I'm sure, as God, He doesn't need you to allow Him a little wiggle room to do what He wants). I perused a quiverfull forum for a bit, and occasionally the topic of NFP came up; and while I could tell there had been some uneasiness about it in the past, so as to make the topic a bit taboo, the hardcore quiverfull members occasionally mentioned it was just as wrong as any other method.<br /><br />I think I have a good theory for why quiverfull people can be so judgmental, and so quick to assign the label "selfish" to those who choose otherwise. Its because they are jealous. Don't get me wrong, they don't want to have less children, I believe them that their many children bring them a great deal of joy. But there are pro and cons to everything in life. Having many children brings a lot of joy, but at the expense of other pleasures in this life. So when they see others who can take more advantage of them, such as more money, more opportunity to pay for higher education, ease of vacations, nights out, etc; they envy those people those freedoms. The fact they would prefer to have many children instead of these luxaries does not change the fact that they notice them as luxarious, and therefor they wish no one had them. Ultimatly, it is kind of ironic, if you feel having so many children is clearly the more joyful experience, why label the other side "selfish". They are not being "selfish", they are missing out!<br /><br />I was married at 21. I had my first child at 23, then 25, and then a vasectomy at 26. I have never regretted it. My wife and I are 31, enjoy our two daughters immensely, stay in the gym and in shape, and enjoy consistent frequent passionate barrier-free sex. I wouldn't change anything about my life.Petenoreply@blogger.com